I had to leave a review because the one review I saw that had a message was that this movie encourages people too stay in abusive relationships. That is not the case. The message is that it is up to the abuser to stop the abuse... Not for everyone around him or her to fix it for them.
The point in the terminology of 'break the cycle' is too point out that many abusers were abused themselves. This does not give them and excuse. They have to be willing to do the work to do better.
It is true that all of the relationships that were reflected on that got a second look a few months later had continued. 3 out of 4 of them had continued successfully. The people who were willing to change and put in the work were able to make their partner feel safe and appreciated. However, one of them did not change and the consequences were dire for him. In one of the successful relationships the partner even said she would have left him had things not improved.
That review tells me that the reviewer believes that if someone is in and abusive relationship and they don't leave it is their fault. It is *not* their fault. It isn't always that simple.
If you can leave an abusive relationship you Totally should. But if you can't... That doesn't mean you deserve it. I hope you got the help you deserve.
The point in the terminology of 'break the cycle' is too point out that many abusers were abused themselves. This does not give them and excuse. They have to be willing to do the work to do better.
It is true that all of the relationships that were reflected on that got a second look a few months later had continued. 3 out of 4 of them had continued successfully. The people who were willing to change and put in the work were able to make their partner feel safe and appreciated. However, one of them did not change and the consequences were dire for him. In one of the successful relationships the partner even said she would have left him had things not improved.
That review tells me that the reviewer believes that if someone is in and abusive relationship and they don't leave it is their fault. It is *not* their fault. It isn't always that simple.
If you can leave an abusive relationship you Totally should. But if you can't... That doesn't mean you deserve it. I hope you got the help you deserve.
